feat: add support for custom docker-compose file and binary auto-update

[Kukks]

[tiero]

I woudl have split in two PRs. Im not sure the hot loading of docker compose is that easy (if not pretty happy, but maybe we need a test)

Also to stop --compose has to be passed right? otherwise can be some stale containers left. not sure how much liberty is good to give to user to pass anything that wont work with our curated compose as "template"