Proper tree-sitter 0.25 support

[ObserverOfTime]

This is an ongoing effort to update node-tree-sitter with the changes introduced in tree-sitter 0.25, and more:

• [x] Track tree-sitter release branch
• [x] Enable dependabot updates
• [x] Use arm runners in CI
• [x] Update Node versions
  • Drop tests on 18
  • Run tests on 24
• [x] Enable trusted publishing
• [x] Improve binding.gyp cflags
  • Add -fvisibility=hidden to the flags on Linux
  • Adapt std based on Node version
    • closes #238
    • closes #240
• [ ] Update the API to tree-sitter 0.25
  • closes #244
  • closes #248
  • closes #253
  • closes #256
  • closes #261
• [ ] Introduce QueryCursor class
  • May or may not use iterators
    • closes #178
    • closes #207
  • Support custom predicates
    • closes #179
• [ ] Improve errors, docs, types
  • closes #210
  • closes #243
• [x] Miscellaneous fixes
  • closes #246
  • closes #257

Don't ask when this will be updated/finished/merged. If you want to speed it up, submit a PR on my fork.

[Abrifq]

Adapt std based on Node version

• closes https://github.com/tree-sitter/node-tree-sitter/issues/238
• closes https://github.com/tree-sitter/node-tree-sitter/pull/240

Hello! I have made a PR about this part. Should I rebase it on your PR so you can merge it when you are free to review?

#240 already exists though? Yeah, but I made it conditional via nodejs' config.gypi. This way if it needs another version bump, it should be easier.

[ObserverOfTime]

I already did that one.

[Abrifq]

I already did that one.

Ah ok, didn't notice. Have a nice day then!