wrong screen connecting to Ventura?

[Spongman]

When connecting to a ventura mac, all I see is the menu bar and the current app's menu items, and the desktop background. I don't see the date/time in the menu bar, the dock, desktop icons, or any open app windows. The menu bar items change when I switch apps using the mac's mouse. But the vnc mouse does not work.

2023-12-12 17:30:02.362 OSXvnc-server[649:6315] Arguments: -rfbauth passwordFile
2023-12-12 17:30:02.429 OSXvnc-server[649:6315] Detected HiDPI Display with scaling factor of 2.000000
2023-12-12 17:30:02.502 OSXvnc-server[649:6315] Running in Little Endian
2023-12-12 17:30:02.503 OSXvnc-server[649:6315] Pasteboard Inaccessible - Pasteboard sharing disabled
2023-12-12 17:30:02.503 OSXvnc-server[649:6315] Waiting for clients
2023-12-12 17:30:02.503 OSXvnc-server[649:6333] Registering Bonjour Service(_rfb._tcp.) - MBP.pj.net
2023-12-12 17:30:02.503 OSXvnc-server[649:6335] Started listener thread on IPv6 port 5900
2023-12-12 17:30:02.504 OSXvnc-server[649:6333] Using Private Event Source
2023-12-12 17:30:02.505 OSXvnc-server[649:6333] Unable to get session dictionary.
2023-12-12 17:30:02.505 OSXvnc-server[649:6333] Using Smart Event Tap -- Session for off-screen user
2023-12-12 17:30:02.505 OSXvnc-server[649:6333] Started listener thread on IPv4 port 5900
2023-12-12 17:30:14.333 OSXvnc-server[649:6447] Protocol version 3.8
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447] ENCODING: ZRLE for client 10.0.3.3
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]         Unknown Encoding Type(ignored): 22 (16)
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]         Unknown Encoding Type(ignored): 21 (15)
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]         Unknown Encoding Type(ignored): 15 (F)
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]         Unknown Encoding Type(ignored): 4294966982 (FFFFFEC6)
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]         Enabling Cursor Shape protocol extension for client 10.0.3.3
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]         Enabling Dynamic Desktop Sizing for client 10.0.3.3
2023-12-12 17:30:14.354 OSXvnc-server[649:6447] Pixel format for client 10.0.3.3:
2023-12-12 17:30:14.355 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]   32 bpp, depth 24, little endian
2023-12-12 17:30:14.355 OSXvnc-server[649:6447]   true colour: max r 255 g 255 b 255, shift r 16 g 8 b 0
2023-12-12 17:30:14.375 OSXvnc-server[649:6447] Client connected - registering screen update notification