Remove the need to `nohoist`

[amitdahan]

Summary

Due to a few assumptions made within solid-start - usage within a monorepo with hoisting (npm or yarn) enabled can lead to a few things breaking, which is why nohoist is the recommended approach.

This PR attempts at removing the need for nohoist by handling the following issues I could find. (There may be more I'm not aware of, these are just the instances I could find)

Automatic adapter detection

Previously, we searched for all solid-start-* packages with { solid: { type: 'adapter' } } in node_modules.

This can lead to undesired inclusion of adapters in bigger monorepo situations.

This PR changes said behavior to instead only look for known adapter packages in the user's package.json deps and devDeps, and later resolve them from his own CWD, which should resolve successfully regardless of hoisting conditions.

Running or referencing vite

Previously, we assumed vite always lives in node_modules/vite.

This PR adjusts this to either require('vite') or require.resolve('vite') from user's CWD.

Running wrangler in solid-start-cloudflare-workers and solid-start-cloudflare-pages

Similarly, wrangler was also assumed to live in node_modules/wrangler.