distutils will be deprecated with Python 3.12

[msyriac]

[JBorrow]

At the same time we should clean up the old github actions that we use (e.g. actions/checkout@1 is now up to v4).

[JBorrow]

Are there any preferences between meson or scikit-build-core? I am leaning towards meson as it's a more generic build system and does use CMake which I absolutely hate.

https://numpy.org/devdocs/reference/distutils_status_migration.html

[JBorrow]

This should also address https://github.com/simonsobs/pixell/issues/33

[JBorrow]

Decided on using Meson