[Core] fix flaky reference count test by cleaning up borrowed references if actor is killed before dependencies are not resolved

[rkooo567]

Why are these changes needed?

When a actor is killed before dependencies are resolved, it doesn't send the reply to the caller (there's a wrong assumption here), and the caller doesn't call proper APIs to clean up borrowed references. This PR fixes the issue by sending a reply when actor is killed before dependencies are resolved and calling FailPendingTask, which in turns clean up borrowed references.

Related issue number

Closes https://github.com/ray-project/ray/issues/48087

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