add --node-ip-address tests

[mattip]

Why are these changes needed?

The use of node-ip-address and address from the command line is not clearly specified.

• disallow ray start --node-ip-address since node-ip-address is only for HEAD nodes
• add tests, including one for ray start --head --address <address:port>

Related issue number

#34094

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[mattip]

I am not sure ray start --head --address is meant to succeed. Opinions?

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