[Fix #51463] Raise an error when invalid `:on` or `:except` options are given to `#resource` or `#resources`

[joshuay03]

Motivation / Background

Fixes https://github.com/rails/rails/issues/51463.

Detail

Raises an ArgumentError when a ActionDispatch::Routing::Mapper::Resources::Resource is initalized with :on or :except options that aren't default (index, create, new, show, update, and destroy) actions .

Additional information

See my comment below as to why this seems like more changes than it needs to be.

Checklist

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