[ROCm] CK Flash Attention Backend

[alugorey]

Replaces https://github.com/ROCm/pytorch/pull/1592

Updated implementation of CK gemm backend. Can close previous PR

This PR will generate CK kernels necessary for flash attention. Currently they will be generated in pytorch/aten/src/ATen/native/transformers/hip/flash_attn/. The CK path can be forced by simply calling torch.backends.cuda.preferred_rocm_fa_library("ck"). Similarly, you can force the incumbent aotriton implementation by passing in "aotriton" or "default". As you'd expect, not setting this option will result in aotriton to be used as the backend. In the case of CK, if pytorch deems flash attention usable, then it will use the CK path in all the same places aotriton would have been used. This PR makes no changes to the heuristics which select which attention scheme to use (i.e. flash attention vs memory efficient attention vs math etc etc). It only gets called when flash attention is both enabled (via USE_FLASH_ATTENTION) and is selected at runtime by the existing heuristics.

Files located in pytorch/aten/src/ATen/native/transformers/hip/flash_attn/ck/mha* have been pulled from https://github.com/Dao-AILab/flash-attention courtesy of @tridao's hard work who is the co-author

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