mac/manylinux deps updates 2024

[ankith26]

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It's that time of the year again, this is the deps update PR of 2024.

Most of the dependency updates are straightforward, the only non-trivial changes here are change in buildsystem for

• SDL and friends: SDL3 is going to exclusively support cmake, so I figured we should make the jump right away. I believe it is better maintained these days anyways.
• harfbuzz now supports meson only
• flac/ogg/vorbis had some issues, so jump to CMake on that one as well
• Also fixed a couple of other misc issues with libxmp and LD_LIBRARY_PATH handling