Swap psutil for tasklist to get windows building.

[GMGilson]

Shifted around the cargo.toml and added a new dependency to get around the lack of windows support with psutil.

Tasklist is a win32 api wrapper that handles process ids and is swapped in as a comp-time drop in replacement.

My knowledge of rust and especially the cargo.toml is limited so I may have broken something on the linux/macos side of builds especially since I do not have a macos system live and ready nor a large enough ruby code base to try it out.

Built on Win11