feat: Upgrade to relay 13

[cliedeman]

Fixes #211

Most of the compiler options have been removed with the rust compiler so you have to use a relay.config.js or the like

e.g. So the eager es modules are not required anymore

module.exports = {
    language: 'typescript',
    src: './src/.',
    eagerEsModules: true,
    'schema': './schemas/schema.gql',
  };

[cliedeman]

The pinned graphql version is odd. Explanation here

[cliedeman]

Depends on #304