esm: add experimental support for addon modules

[legendecas]

Add experimental support to loading .node extension modules in ESM.

An addon exports two names default and module.exports, as same as import(cjs) where its export names can not be preparsed. Addon export names can not be inferred until it is evaluated.

Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/40541 Fixes: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/55821