[data grid] `upsertFilterItems` removes filters that are not part of the update

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Description

Closes 11793

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@MBilalShafi This PR is ready for review

[danisaurio]

Hey guys, do we have an ETA for this fix? Thanks!

[MBilalShafi]

@danisaurio It's already merged and should be shipped by the end of the week.