Consistent parameterization w.r.t. updating reference windows

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• kdqtree and HDDDM have different default behaviors: static window for the former, updating window for the latter. This choice was because kdqtree's transform is expensive to run.
• It would be good to have consistent default behavior across all detectors, or at least something like auto_update=True in the parameterization, so it's more explicit what behavior will occur by default.