fix: Add "defer-and-hydrate" and "hydrate" as templateOptions

[janechu]

🐛 Bug Report

Using defineAsync() bypasses the fromCustomElement in FASTElement where this templateOption was being used. This should instead be interpreted by the TemplateElement in @microsoft/fast-html.

The following options should work:

• Passing "defer-and-hydrate" should add defer-hydration and needs-hydration boolean attributes before defining the custom element with the custom element registry
• Passing "hydrate" should add needs-hydration attribute before defining the custom element with the custom element registry
• Passing nothing should cause the ElementController to be used instead