feat: added SequencedSet for isOrderedSet

[mirageoasis]

adding SequencedSet interface for isOrderedSet

finally fixing #3848 and fix #3996

working on test code for now

[Kantis]

@mirageoasis i kidnapped this PR to try out adding targets for different JDK versions, but it's really hard to get it working correctly and I don't think it's worth the complexity added.

Another thing that I realized is that perhaps we should just rely on reflection in this case. We can add a check like this in isOrderedSet for JVM:

      item::class.java.interfaces.any { it.name == "java.util.SequencedSet" }

and it should be compatible with any java-version and correctly identify subclasses of SequencedSet for newer versions

[mirageoasis]

@Kantis well I finally understood what you have said

actual fun isOrderedSet(item: Iterable<*>) =
   item is LinkedHashSet ||
      item is SortedSet ||
      (item is Set && item.size <= 1) ||
         item::class.java.interfaces.any { it.name == "java.util.SequencedSet" }

the real problem is how should run test for jdk21

Is it ok for me implement subclass of EnabledCondition

to run code on specific jdk version?

https://github.com/kotest/kotest/blob/17d1b3b189fe4d804f1d3c6ce14280f724b0f168/kotest-framework/kotest-framework-api/src/jvmMain/kotlin/io/kotest/core/annotation/enabledif/os.kt#L7

like this!