Starting label could be applied even if pod failed the start command

[burmanm]

What happened?

When giving the pod such settings that it will fail to start by crashing to a JVM fault, we still set the label starting and this happens after the Pod has crashed. Thus, leaving the cluster in a state that it looks to cass-operator that the pod is still starting while in reality this instance of the pod has never had any /start command applied to it.

What did you expect to happen?

No response

How can we reproduce it (as minimally and precisely as possible)?

See comment https://github.com/k8ssandra/cass-operator/pull/711#pullrequestreview-2620597912 , can be reproduced in kind environment at least.

cass-operator version

1.24-dev

Kubernetes version

1.32

Method of installation

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Anything else we need to know?

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┆Issue is synchronized with this Jira Story by Unito ┆Issue Number: CASS-93