[video_player] synchronize isPlaying state

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This was the original PR: flutter/plugins#7198

Resolves flutter/flutter#49081. Resolves flutter/flutter#120872.

This PR synchronizes isPlaying state between native and dart code, for example if a headset is unplugged or a phone call interrupts the video.

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