[🚀esl-core]: extend `ESLEventListener` api to have more control over auto-behaviour

[ala-n]

As a ESL consumer, I want to be able control phases to auto subscribe/unsubscribe events

Proposal:

  auto?: boolean | 'all' | 'bind' | 'unbind';

Originally posted by @ala-n in https://github.com/exadel-inc/esl/pull/878#discussion_r830993170