GH-3539 use a cleaner and shutdown hook instead of finalize()

[JervenBolleman]

GitHub issue resolved: #3539

Briefly describe the changes proposed in this PR:

Use a Cleaner and shutdown hook to make sure unused resources are removed cleanly and efficiently without spooky behaviour.

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[JervenBolleman]

@kenwenzel please have a look at this and verify that I got the intention right.

Historically, I have been bitten by finalizers to often and I am highly suspicious of them.

[JervenBolleman]

This implementation is buggy and does not work as intended. I register the store reference which thus never is phantom reachable. Fixed in #3542 let's merge that first and then redo this one.

[hmottestad]

Marked this as stale to signal that the PR hasn't been active for a while and that we should consider closing it.