[20658] Fix leak in `SecurityManager::participant_volatile_message_secure_writer_` (backport #4673)

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Description

This is a fix for #4553, which reported an increase in memory consumption when the partition of a secure DataWriter is changed. The consumption came from the history of the participant_volatile_message_secure_writer_ not being correctly cleared.

This PR:

• adds a black-box test reproducing the behavior depicted in #4553
• converts volatile_writer_ in the security tests into a StrictMock, and adds expectations for the added change to be released
• Fixes #4553 by making SecurityManager implement rtps::WriterListener and removing changes from history when they are acknowledged (i.e. making participant_volatile_message_secure_writer_ truly behave as volatile)

@Mergifyio backport 2.13.x 2.10.x 2.6.x

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[Mario-DL]

@richiprosima please test this

[Mario-DL]

Gtihub failing tests unrelated to this PR, known flakies on windows and mac.