Change `#==` dependency from `#coerce` to `#equalizer_coerce`

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I have an object which defines a #coerce instance method as part of its public API. I didn't realize until recently that this breaks #== for this object and all of the objects that own it until today.

I understand after talking to @dkubb that this is a weak convention in ruby, but it might make sense to deprecate the use of #coerce and instead depend on a method that is less likely to naturally collide with unrelated method names that are not meant for equalizer