release-22.2: opt: fix node-crashing panics with correlated With exprs

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Backport 2/2 commits from #88396 on behalf of @mgartner.

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opt: prevent apply-join panics from crashing nodes

Previously, it was possible for the execution of an apply-join to crash a node due to an uncaught optimizer panic when calling the planRightSideFn closure. This closure is invoked for every input row to the apply-join. It replaces variables in the expression on the right side of the join with constants using Factory.CopyAndReplace, which can panic. This panic won't be caught by the panic-catching logic in Optimizer.Optimize because the closure is invoked outside the context of Optimizer.Optimize - it's occurring during execution instead.

This commit copies the panic-catching logic of Optimizer.Optimize to the apply-join's planRightSideFn closure to ensure that any panics are caught.

Release Note (bug fix): A bug has been fixed that could cause nodes to crash in rare cases when executing apply-joins in query plans.

opt: fix transitive references to With exprs in RHS of apply-join

This commit fixes an error that could occur when the RHS of an apply-join referenced a With expression transitive through another With expression. The error occurred because the optimizer could not access the relational properties of the transitively referenced With expression because the With was not added to the metadata. The commit fixes the issue by adding all With expressions to the metadata if any With expressions are referenced.

Fixes #87733

Release note (bug fix): A bug has been fixed that caused errors in rare cases when executing queries with correlated WITH expressions. This bug was present since correlated WITH expressions were introduced in v21.2.0.

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Release justification:

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