Attempt to build w/o vendor libssl

[brianc]

I'm going to work on trying to get the build working without requiring the user to install a new version of libssl. I'm a bit rusty on this so help is definitely appreciated, and I'm probably gonna thrash here a bit...

This looks somewhat helpful, though the resolution instructions are cryptic

[brianc]

Further reading:

https://stackoverflow.com/questions/52672253/how-to-compile-node-js-native-addon-against-own-openssl-library

https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/24964

https://github.com/nodejs/node-gyp/issues/1559

[AntoineTB]

Hey @brianc Could a similar solution be used to circumvent the issue between Node18+'s OpenSSL 3 and libpq's OpenSSL 1.x?