[Feature][JDBC Sink] Add DM upset support

[lihjChina]

Purpose of this pull request

Check list

• [ ] Code changed are covered with tests, or it does not need tests for reason:
• [ ] If any new Jar binary package adding in your PR, please add License Notice according New License Guide
• [ ] If necessary, please update the documentation to describe the new feature. https://github.com/apache/seatunnel/tree/dev/docs
• [ ] If you are contributing the connector code, please check that the following files are updated:
  1. Update change log that in connector document. For more details you can refer to connector-v2
  2. Update plugin-mapping.properties and add new connector information in it
  3. Update the pom file of seatunnel-dist
• [ ] Update the release-note.

[EricJoy2048]

Please add e2e for this pr.

[lihjChina]

Please add e2e for this pr. complete~

[lihjChina]

done