Pipe: Fix the Out of memory problem in WALInsertNodeCache memory management under extreme conditions

[luoluoyuyu]

Description

1. Add new configuration to support clearing cache data when WALInsertNodeCache is reduced in size
2. More accurate calculation of InsertNode memory size

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This PR has:

• [ ] been self-reviewed.
  • [ ] concurrent read
  • [ ] concurrent write
  • [ ] concurrent read and write
• [ ] added documentation for new or modified features or behaviors.
• [ ] added Javadocs for most classes and all non-trivial methods.
• [ ] added or updated version, license, or notice information
• [ ] added comments explaining the "why" and the intent of the code wherever would not be obvious for an unfamiliar reader.
• [ ] added unit tests or modified existing tests to cover new code paths, ensuring the threshold for code coverage.
• [ ] added integration tests.
• [ ] been tested in a test IoTDB cluster.

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