[Umbrella] [Manager] Manager support delete/update by unique key

[vernedeng]

Describe the proposal

Task list

• [x] #6042
• [x] #6086
• [x] #6101
• [ ] #6103
• [ ] #6104

InLong Component

InLong Manager

Are you willing to submit PR?

• [X] Yes, I am willing to submit a PR!

Code of Conduct

• [X] I agree to follow this project's Code of Conduct