[#1264][FEATURE][SPARK] Support cancel async thread of handle blockEvent and rpc when writer is killed

[summaryzb]

What changes were proposed in this pull request?

Cancel all the runnable that are wait to be executed or blocked in waiting for rpc callback

Why are the changes needed?

This is helpful when current task is killed since speculation task attempts succeed, but the rpc of which send data still keep retrying

Fix: #1264

Does this PR introduce any user-facing change?

No.

How was this patch tested?

UT

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Attention: Patch coverage is 0% with 6 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 51.21%. Comparing base (8ad0f8d) to head (7b0f563). Report is 1 commits behind head on master.

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[summaryzb]

@jerqi @LuciferYang PTAL

[LuciferYang]

also cc @advancedxy

[LuciferYang]

Seems we should add a new test to cover this

[summaryzb]

gentle ping @LuciferYang @advancedxy