[FEATURE] Add NettyMemoryMetrics for netty client and server

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Describe the feature

We should include NettyMemoryMetrics to enhance memory metrics for PooledByteBufAllocator. https://github.com/apache/spark/blob/master/common/network-common/src/main/java/org/apache/spark/network/util/NettyMemoryMetrics.java

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