[opt](bytebuffer) allocate ByteBuffer memory by Allocator and make it exception safe (#38960)

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pick (#38960)

At present, the memory allocation of ByteBuffer is done through new char[capacity_]. Now, it is uniformly allocated by Allocator for the following purposes:

1. Better memory statistics
2. Better support for memory limit check

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