Stop copying LogicalPlan and Exprs in `EliminateCrossJoin`

[alamb]

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge?

Part of https://github.com/apache/datafusion/issues/9637

As part of making the planner faster, we are updating the optimizer passes to avoid copying LogicalPlan and Expr (see https://github.com/apache/datafusion/issues/9637)

Describe the solution you'd like

I would like to reduce the amount of copying in this pass (even though it doesn't appear in current profiling)

Describe alternatives you've considered

Apply the model from @Lordworms in https://github.com/apache/datafusion/pull/10166 to this pass 2. Update OptimizerRule::supports_rewrite` to return true

1. Update OptimizerRule to use rewrite
2. Update the pass itself to not copy the LogicalPlan (ideally using the TreeNode API) - it is implemented for LogicalPlan (API) and Expr (API)

Other examples: https://github.com/apache/datafusion/pull/10218

Additional context

[alamb]

I believe @Lordworms is working on this -- https://github.com/apache/datafusion/issues/9637#issuecomment-2075311002

[alamb]

I am going to give this one a try

[alamb]

It is done over a few PRs but I have this change now working and I think it is looking quite good: https://github.com/apache/datafusion/pull/10431