[Subtask]: Spark need to add some config to using spillable map

[nicochen]

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Description

Arctic has introduced spillable map to avoid OOM. Spark need add some config to use spillable map. Linked class see com.netease.arctic.utils.map.StructLikeCollections

Parent issue

#925

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[nicochen]

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