Add a builder for arbiter + alive method

[Sytten]

PR Type

Feature

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Overview

Builder

This adds a builder for the arbiter, allowing more customization of the thread used by the arbiter.

The first customizable I added was the name, this allows us to differentiate the different arbiters better since they are not all used for the same purpose.

Alive

I also added an alive method on the arbiter so the caller can try to detect dead arbiters before sending it a future since it consumes it. Otherwise you need to have a clone future which is not good most of the time.

[robjtede]

LGTM from a quick look but needs a manual rebase (which I don't have perms to do on this PR).

[Sytten]

@robjtede Sorry it took forever to rebase, its done

[robjtede]

drafting due to staleness and CI failures

[Sytten]

@robjtede I will try to rebase, but lets try to merge it this time XD

[robjtede]

@Sytten sure, i just generally don't have time to review PRs where "Linux / Stable" is failing as it did last time