feat: add a "disableValueCache" option

[jonatan-zint-tfs]

When using tanstack table with proxy objects as row data, copying cell values to the cache is unwanted behavior as they are no longer connected to the row proxy object. In these scenarios i'd like to turn off the value cache.

ref #4876

To illustrate the problem further You can read this comment and see the attached sandbox examples: https://github.com/TanStack/table/issues/4876#issuecomment-1719506142

[KevinVandy]

@OlaAlsaker Curious on your opinion on this PR. I was originally saving this type of change for v9

[OlaAlsaker]

I don't this change is necessary anymore after we introduced support for reactivity in v8.20.0. @jonatan-zint-tfs , could you maybe test out the latest update and see if it solves your problems? 😄

[jonatan-zint-tfs]

Sure I was kinda reshifted to another project, but I'll check with my collegues!