starrocks [Enhancement] limit tablet write request size

Why I'm doing:

When there are large chunks during the load process, the following error may be returned due to exceeding the size limit of protobuf. img_v3_02e4_eddde0ab-db20-4044-99a3-d6c6a82baf6g

NodeChannel currently only aggregates batches based on the function of the chunk, but does not take into account the size of the chunk. img_v3_02e4_9f4f7683-ef85-49db-b315-5a3647cb863g

What I'm doing:

In this PR, I have added chunk mem usage check to avoid generating large pb requests for load tasks

Fixes #issue

What type of PR is this:

[ ] BugFix
[ ] Feature
[x] Enhancement
[ ] Refactor
[ ] UT
[ ] Doc
[ ] Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

[ ] Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
[x] No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

[ ] Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
[ ] Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
[ ] Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
[ ] Feature removed
[ ] Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

[ ] I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
[ ] This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
- [ ] I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
[ ] This is a backport pr

Bugfix cherry-pick branch check:

[x] I have checked the version labels which the pr will be auto-backported to the target branch
- [x] 3.3
- [ ] 3.2
- [ ] 3.1
- [ ] 3.0
- [ ] 2.5

Aug 27 '24 05:08 silverbullet233