Extend `--skip-auditwheel` to support check mode

[messense]

          I think we can extend `--skip-auditwheel` to add some variants:

• --skip-auditwheel: no functional change, deprecate it in favor of --auditwheel=skip
• --auditwheel=repair: same as --compability=XXX w/o --skip-auditwheel
• --auditwheel=skip: new --skip-auditwheel equivlent option
• --auditwheel=check: fail the build if it requires copy DLLs or new GLIBC versions

Originally posted by @messense in https://github.com/PyO3/maturin/issues/2038#issuecomment-2050791915