fix(build): hermetic install of files after build

[fffonion]

Refactor the giant bash blob in //build:kong target to Bazel rules that each output files are tracked. So that:

• We won't accidently copy extra files if upstream projects change.
• We don't accidently overwrite files between targets (error will occur).
• Use the actual Output files lists (from foreign_cc rule or genrule as the source) truth to determine what files to install. For example, we simply don't output headers if not needed, instead of copy_with_filter when install.
• Add or modify a target to install is easier and doesn't involve bash-fu.
• Developer can use individual //build:install-xx target to only build and install selectd components, like //build:install-openresty only install openresty and openssl and skip luarocks etc.

Other noticable changes:

• Also a new //build:dev-make-openresty target is added so that developer can use it to invoke make directly for openresty development.
• Lua files and C extensions that are not installed by luarocks are now installed into PREFIX/openresty/site/lualib where typically PREFIX is /usr/local. This is to avoid collide with openresty bundled files (PREFIX/openresty/lualib), where those files used to be installed under.
• Bumps atc-router to v1.6.2:
  • chore(cargo): release v1.6.1 by @dndx in kong/atc-router#216
  • chore(build): add a new target to include lua files by @fffonion in kong/atc-router#219

KAG-4290

Needs https://github.com/Kong/atc-router/pull/219

[fffonion]

good run https://github.com/Kong/kong/actions/runs/8964918449/job/24617728938?pr=12882

[team-gateway-bot]

Cherry-pick failed for master, because it was unable to cherry-pick the commit(s).

Please cherry-pick the changes locally.

git remote add upstream https://github.com/kong/kong-ee
git fetch upstream master
git worktree add -d .worktree/cherry-pick-12882-to-master-to-upstream upstream/master
cd .worktree/cherry-pick-12882-to-master-to-upstream
git checkout -b cherry-pick-12882-to-master-to-upstream
ancref=$(git merge-base 204dd8ddb406399473073e0bb263c4531f409a43 c014a3397c64a7bc9a515fb5cd520e38087a454f)
git cherry-pick -x $ancref..c014a3397c64a7bc9a515fb5cd520e38087a454f

[kikito]

This was cherrypicked in https://github.com/Kong/kong-ee/pull/8843