vineyard: remove bundled deps

[carlocab]

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Let's remove these to make sure we're using our own dependencies.

[SMillerDev]

  -- Vineyard will use 'dlmalloc' by default for shared memory allocation
  CMake Error at CMakeLists.txt:277 (add_subdirectory):
    add_subdirectory given source "thirdparty/pybind11" which is not an
    existing directory.
  Call Stack (most recent call first):
    CMakeLists.txt:864 (add_subdirectory_static)

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