CI memory checks

[streeve]

GHA additions:

• [x] Add new Cabana options
• [x] Address sanitizer: previously failing because of bad ArborX test
• [ ] Enable leak detection: errors from MPI
• [ ] Enable memory sanitizer in CI: errors from IndexSpace (Kokkos::Impl::HostThreadTeamData::organize_pool ERROR pool already exists)
• [x] Enable valgrind in CI: errors from AoSoA in Release, errors on ubuntu
• [ ] Enable valgrind for OpenMP: errors from Kokkos
• [x] #623