[wip] hommexx: fixing cmake cache files

[skyler-ruiter]

Gets weaver cache file working again, compiles with kokkos and parallel-IO.

Also cleans up cache file by removing some unneeded arguments and adding comments.

[rljacob]

@oksanaguba please re-review.

[rljacob]

Notes: needs one more review from @oksanaguba

[rljacob]

@oksanaguba please approve.

[oksanaguba]

closing this till i can get back to it.