Set expandable_segments explicitly via cuda memory API

[mirceamironenco]

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• This PR modifies the way torchtune by default sets expandable_segments to True for the CUDA allocator, making it more robust to the order in which torch and torchtune are imported.
• I've added an explicit check to allow the user to deactivate this option if they desire, i.e. by adding expandable_segments:False to the PYTORCH_CUDA_ALLOC_CONF environment variable.
• This setting was similarly turned on in tests/__init__.py but it's unclear to me if this is necessary anymore. I can re-add this if tests are failing due to memory issues.

Note that if torchtune adds e.g. weight syncing via CUDA IPC it will be necessary to add a decorator that turns this off and on again since IPC for expandable segment tensors is not yet implemented in torch IIUC.

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