Fixes #12313 - Jetty 12 ee9/ee10 doesn't invoke callbacks when h2 client sends RST_STREAM.

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• Fixed invocation of AsyncListener.onError(), now called even if the response is already committed, in both EE9 and EE10.
• Reworked EE9 HttpChannel state machine in case of failures to be like EE10's. In particular, calling abort now is a state change, rather than a failure of the Handler callback. In this way, the handle() loop continues, enters case TERMINATED, and the callback is completed in onCompleted().
• Fixed EE9 handling of idle timeout in HttpChannel.onRequest(), that was missing.