add fixes for socket shutdown

[jsteemann]

Scope & Purpose

WIP: potential bugfix for error cases for connection issues and during socket shutdown

• [x] :hankey: Bugfix
• [ ] :pizza: New feature
• [ ] :fire: Performance improvement
• [ ] :hammer: Refactoring/simplification

Checklist

• [ ] Tests
  • [ ] Regression tests
  • [ ] C++ Unit tests
  • [ ] integration tests
  • [ ] resilience tests
• [ ] :book: CHANGELOG entry made
• [ ] :books: documentation written (release notes, API changes, ...)
• [ ] Backports
  • [ ] Backport for 3.12.0: -
  • [ ] Backport for 3.11: -
  • [ ] Backport for 3.10: -

Related Information

• [ ] Docs PR:
• [ ] Enterprise PR:
• [ ] GitHub issue / Jira ticket:
• [ ] Design document: