[feature](nereids) set wait_time for runtime filter

[englefly]

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #xxx

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clang-tidy review says "All clean, LGTM! :+1:"

[englefly]

run buildall

[doris-robot]

TeamCity be ut coverage result: Function Coverage: 35.77% (8558/23924) Line Coverage: 27.71% (69389/250367) Region Coverage: 26.84% (36010/134174) Branch Coverage: 23.65% (18421/77886) Coverage Report: http://coverage.selectdb-in.cc/coverage/d1add0e63bbe1de0b86d07318071cf1061f72b2f_d1add0e63bbe1de0b86d07318071cf1061f72b2f/report/index.html

[github-actions[bot]]

clang-tidy review says "All clean, LGTM! :+1:"

[englefly]

run buildall

[github-actions[bot]]

clang-tidy review says "All clean, LGTM! :+1:"

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TPC-H: Total hot run time: 41690 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit 322ef1f151fab6bcf9a8955c1ad78e1f68f220b5, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17632	4995	4930	4930
q2	2057	145	143	143
q3	10602	1018	1048	1018
q4	4748	966	966	966
q5	7736	3187	3305	3187
q6	200	137	145	137
q7	1252	783	779	779
q8	9388	2094	2096	2094
q9	7679	6944	6713	6713
q10	8307	2643	2640	2640
q11	423	221	218	218
q12	786	341	331	331
q13	18001	3654	3676	3654
q14	295	265	259	259
q15	588	509	508	508
q16	481	407	415	407
q17	943	900	900	900
q18	7304	6729	6644	6644
q19	1559	1495	1498	1495
q20	576	351	339	339
q21	6655	4017	3979	3979
q22	853	357	349	349
Total cold run time: 108065 ms
Total hot run time: 41690 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	4857	4833	4831	4831
q2	301	188	188	188
q3	3591	3574	3590	3574
q4	2519	2545	2514	2514
q5	5786	5721	5760	5721
q6	209	123	131	123
q7	2262	1670	1629	1629
q8	3016	3076	3125	3076
q9	8732	8726	8686	8686
q10	6775	4273	4230	4230
q11	506	390	389	389
q12	775	543	533	533
q13	4228	3401	3403	3401
q14	263	224	228	224
q15	629	506	497	497
q16	491	434	462	434
q17	1701	1617	1616	1616
q18	8443	7700	7707	7700
q19	1642	1643	1650	1643
q20	2116	1849	1837	1837
q21	6605	6192	6178	6178
q22	561	527	504	504
Total cold run time: 66008 ms
Total hot run time: 59528 ms