Make ReadBinaryOptions more strict across readers

[SoniEx2]

this is a major breaking change and we don't expect CIFuzz to survive, but coupling the assumptions of the binary reader delegate with the accepted binary reader options makes some things a lot easier. it does mean CIFuzz won't be able to fuzz the interpreter reader with stop_on_first_error = false; but we think that's for the best. (that should never have been a supported configuration, honestly.)

closes #2537