Fix: data race in TCPHandler on socket timeouts settings

[yakov-olkhovskiy]

TSAN report: https://pastila.nl/?00058334/7adb989784cc8958247f901e9ee3bdec#+YHPzK829YOPhwXO15Ensg==

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closes #64053

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[yakov-olkhovskiy]

@kssenii could you please take a look - it's similar to your recent fix https://github.com/ClickHouse/ClickHouse/pull/65744

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[antaljanosbenjamin]

I tried to review it, but I am not confident enough in my knowledge to say the final verdict about this PR.